Sharks, bumble bees, and crocodile tears
I mentioned previously that I knew the terrible twos were coming and we have seen a lot more evidence as of late. She is testing us on everything, her favorite word is no, and I've seen more tears in the past few weeks then I ever have before! I must say though that is isn't as bad as I first thought it was going to be; perhaps we are just at the tip of the ice berg but she has been doing well with handling her own meltdowns. She usually asks to go lay in her bed, she wants to be alone but does calm herself down without my help. I was very pleased by this as there are some children I had in Kindergarten that could not do that...heck there are adults out there that don't quite grasp how to calm themselves:)
Crocodile tears:
All of the sudden we have a huge problem with personal space and pushing. I know where she is coming from, I tend to get anxiety in social situations and don't often appreciate someone in my personal space but the only difference is that I do not push or yell and cry uncontrollably when it happens.
I believe it all started in Florida with this one little girl named Blake who was older, super confident, and bossy. Whit didn't have any trouble with other kids, in fact she would go up to them and interact normally, until this little girl scared her during a game of hide and go seek. Blake joined in on a game that Whitney was playing with my mom and didn't happen to like Whitney's rules. Problem was Blake's voice was very loud and made Whitney literally shudder when she yelled at her. Ever since then she has changed around other people. Some of you may remember how hard I worked on project socialization when she was little and she was really doing well with others, not shy and loved being in public so you can imagine how it feels to be back at the very point we started.
If someone looks at her or even walks a little too close she is constantly saying, "I want mommy." even if I am sitting right next to her. For example we were at the park the other day and she wanted to go up the steps but there were two boys running around very quickly so that every time she tried to climb the steps one of them was either coming up or down. (which is a normal thing at the park mind you...just not something she liked) As soon as she would see them she would yell, "I want mommy" and practically jump at me. These boys were not bothering her at all just playing around but that is honestly how scared she is of people right now.
We went to her friend Lizzy's house and she did the same thing, as soon as Lizzy looked at her she would yell and bolt to be as close to me as possible. It happened at her favorite library dance class, there were way to many people in there so as soon as we sat down she begged to go home :(. Most recently we had two play dates with friends where she actually started pushing the kids away because she didn't want to be close to them. I was so worried that people are thinking I have become one of those moms that cannot control their child! We talk about how to handle it if someone comes close to us or has a toy we want. We work on it daily but it just isn't helping right now. I am hoping that this is a stage she will soon snap out of because I can't handle too many more play dates where my child is hurting others!!!
Bumble bees:
On Wednesday of this week Whitney was sitting the couch, watching Curious George as I cooked dinner, when she screamed so loud I thought something serious had happened. I go running in to see what happened and she keeps screaming, "there is a bee in my ear, there is a bee in my ear!!!". First things that go through my head are:
1.oh my an ear infection.
2. wait is she joking with me like she has been starting to do.
3. did a bug really just fly into her ear.
So I calm her down and she tells me she keeps hearing "buzzzzz" in her ear. After a bit I go back into the kitchen only to have her scream five minutes later that he bee is still in there. (good thing she is so verbal right?! ha!) So I start to worry. By the fifth time she is holding her ear and crying....I start to put together that she woke up every hour the previous night and really hasn't been eating well. SO of course I call the doctor and they squeeze us in at 7:30 that evening. Not the ideal situation because that is when she usually gets ready for bed but what could I do???
So we go to the doctor, where we have never had more than a five minute wait, and wait almost an hour to be seen. Not the best time of year to be going but I honestly felt like she needed to be seen, especially since she continued to complain about her ear all night long. Dr. Byrd (who is not our normal doctor but amazing none the less) was awesome with Whitney. She has been so afraid of the doctor recently but didn't even fight him when he was examining her. Turns out NO ear infection, which is good, but I was thinking to myself...what in the world is she talking about!??!?! We still have no idea why she did that but are thinking that its probably her two year old molars that she is feeling in her ears....???
The cutest thing though, Dr. Byrd had to get some ear wax out of her ear in order to see down into the ear drum and he made the biggest deal of showing her the "BEE" and put it onto a piece of gauze. He told Whitney that she needed to take it home and take care of it however she wanted:)
And Finally Sharks:
Ever since we got back from Florida Whitney has been calling me frantically when she is in her bed alone, whether it be nap time or bedtime... doesn't matter. Once I get in there she tells me that there is a frog, or a shark, or a guy in her bed and I need to save her. We are at a total loss as to why she would say something like this; we have never chased her with any of those things or made her feel like one of them is something that she should fear....ever.
We have a talk about how Mommy and Daddy will always protect her and that it is only Whitney and her bed in the room. She settles down each time and goes to sleep but it doesn't prevent it from happened again the next day or even later that day.
I know I wondered about night terrors with her a few months back when she was barely sleeping and waking up in a panic. Haven't thought much about it again until recently when all of this stuff starting coming up again. It just breaks my heart because she is so adamant that there is something in there.... I would like to chalk it up to an overactive imagination but am not quite sure that is it either. I've been doing some research on it and am going to continue to watch her as well as talk to her doctor and hopefully help ease her fears :(
Some favorites/habits I don't want to forget that she is into right now:
-- Jake and the Neverland Pirates. In fact she informed me she likes Minnie Mouse but no longer wants a Minnie Mouse party..... "Just a Jake cake." she said!
-- She loves singing Jingle Bells, Rudolph and Frosty the Snowman
-- She can now unlock our phones and successful turn on any game she wants to play
-- Talking in FULL sentences. Literally like 8-10 syllables
-- She is really working on her coping skills and often speaks what she is feeling out loud .for example: when she is wanting something really badly she will look at you and say, "its hard to wait."
-- All we play with right now are "guys" no more babies or coloring only guys..... :)
-- Oh and we started potty training the other weekend and had to quickly stop for many reasons but mainly because she was having some pain or issues going to the bathroom and was starting to associate it with the potty...which we clearly didn't want. We will take a break and then pick back up after Christmas sometime!
Crocodile tears:
All of the sudden we have a huge problem with personal space and pushing. I know where she is coming from, I tend to get anxiety in social situations and don't often appreciate someone in my personal space but the only difference is that I do not push or yell and cry uncontrollably when it happens.
I believe it all started in Florida with this one little girl named Blake who was older, super confident, and bossy. Whit didn't have any trouble with other kids, in fact she would go up to them and interact normally, until this little girl scared her during a game of hide and go seek. Blake joined in on a game that Whitney was playing with my mom and didn't happen to like Whitney's rules. Problem was Blake's voice was very loud and made Whitney literally shudder when she yelled at her. Ever since then she has changed around other people. Some of you may remember how hard I worked on project socialization when she was little and she was really doing well with others, not shy and loved being in public so you can imagine how it feels to be back at the very point we started.
If someone looks at her or even walks a little too close she is constantly saying, "I want mommy." even if I am sitting right next to her. For example we were at the park the other day and she wanted to go up the steps but there were two boys running around very quickly so that every time she tried to climb the steps one of them was either coming up or down. (which is a normal thing at the park mind you...just not something she liked) As soon as she would see them she would yell, "I want mommy" and practically jump at me. These boys were not bothering her at all just playing around but that is honestly how scared she is of people right now.
We went to her friend Lizzy's house and she did the same thing, as soon as Lizzy looked at her she would yell and bolt to be as close to me as possible. It happened at her favorite library dance class, there were way to many people in there so as soon as we sat down she begged to go home :(. Most recently we had two play dates with friends where she actually started pushing the kids away because she didn't want to be close to them. I was so worried that people are thinking I have become one of those moms that cannot control their child! We talk about how to handle it if someone comes close to us or has a toy we want. We work on it daily but it just isn't helping right now. I am hoping that this is a stage she will soon snap out of because I can't handle too many more play dates where my child is hurting others!!!
Bumble bees:
On Wednesday of this week Whitney was sitting the couch, watching Curious George as I cooked dinner, when she screamed so loud I thought something serious had happened. I go running in to see what happened and she keeps screaming, "there is a bee in my ear, there is a bee in my ear!!!". First things that go through my head are:
1.oh my an ear infection.
2. wait is she joking with me like she has been starting to do.
3. did a bug really just fly into her ear.
So I calm her down and she tells me she keeps hearing "buzzzzz" in her ear. After a bit I go back into the kitchen only to have her scream five minutes later that he bee is still in there. (good thing she is so verbal right?! ha!) So I start to worry. By the fifth time she is holding her ear and crying....I start to put together that she woke up every hour the previous night and really hasn't been eating well. SO of course I call the doctor and they squeeze us in at 7:30 that evening. Not the ideal situation because that is when she usually gets ready for bed but what could I do???
So we go to the doctor, where we have never had more than a five minute wait, and wait almost an hour to be seen. Not the best time of year to be going but I honestly felt like she needed to be seen, especially since she continued to complain about her ear all night long. Dr. Byrd (who is not our normal doctor but amazing none the less) was awesome with Whitney. She has been so afraid of the doctor recently but didn't even fight him when he was examining her. Turns out NO ear infection, which is good, but I was thinking to myself...what in the world is she talking about!??!?! We still have no idea why she did that but are thinking that its probably her two year old molars that she is feeling in her ears....???
The cutest thing though, Dr. Byrd had to get some ear wax out of her ear in order to see down into the ear drum and he made the biggest deal of showing her the "BEE" and put it onto a piece of gauze. He told Whitney that she needed to take it home and take care of it however she wanted:)
And Finally Sharks:
Ever since we got back from Florida Whitney has been calling me frantically when she is in her bed alone, whether it be nap time or bedtime... doesn't matter. Once I get in there she tells me that there is a frog, or a shark, or a guy in her bed and I need to save her. We are at a total loss as to why she would say something like this; we have never chased her with any of those things or made her feel like one of them is something that she should fear....ever.
We have a talk about how Mommy and Daddy will always protect her and that it is only Whitney and her bed in the room. She settles down each time and goes to sleep but it doesn't prevent it from happened again the next day or even later that day.
I know I wondered about night terrors with her a few months back when she was barely sleeping and waking up in a panic. Haven't thought much about it again until recently when all of this stuff starting coming up again. It just breaks my heart because she is so adamant that there is something in there.... I would like to chalk it up to an overactive imagination but am not quite sure that is it either. I've been doing some research on it and am going to continue to watch her as well as talk to her doctor and hopefully help ease her fears :(
Some favorites/habits I don't want to forget that she is into right now:
-- Jake and the Neverland Pirates. In fact she informed me she likes Minnie Mouse but no longer wants a Minnie Mouse party..... "Just a Jake cake." she said!
-- She loves singing Jingle Bells, Rudolph and Frosty the Snowman
-- She can now unlock our phones and successful turn on any game she wants to play
-- Talking in FULL sentences. Literally like 8-10 syllables
-- She is really working on her coping skills and often speaks what she is feeling out loud .for example: when she is wanting something really badly she will look at you and say, "its hard to wait."
-- All we play with right now are "guys" no more babies or coloring only guys..... :)
-- Oh and we started potty training the other weekend and had to quickly stop for many reasons but mainly because she was having some pain or issues going to the bathroom and was starting to associate it with the potty...which we clearly didn't want. We will take a break and then pick back up after Christmas sometime!
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